The Santa challenge: Adopt a family in need this Christmas

A drug-addicted single mother of a 10-year-old girl trying and failing to hold her life together. A father of two, the sole breadwinner in the family, laid off from his job and desperate for work. Families like these struggle to scrape together money for groceries, let alone presents. As evidenced by the long lines at Metro Vancouver's largest food bank here in New Westminster, many local families need help. They need you and me to step forward and offer it.

Fraserside volunteers wrap presents to be distributed to low-income families in New Westminster through the Adopt-A-Family program.
Fraserside volunteers wrap presents to be distributed to low-income families in New Westminster through the Adopt-A-Family program.

A drug-addicted single mother of a 10-year-old girl trying and failing to hold her life together. A father of two, the sole breadwinner in the family, laid off from his job and desperate for work. Families like these struggle to scrape together money for groceries, let alone presents. As evidenced by the long lines at Metro Vancouver’s largest food bank here in New Westminster, many local families need help. They need you and me to step forward and offer it.

The families described above are real New Westminster families helped by the Adopt-A-Family program coordinated by Fraserside Community Services Society, which pairs low-income families with sponsors who step forward to give them a Christmas. Sponsors typically spend between $200-500 (depending on the size of the family) on groceries and toys for the kids. Unlike other programs, sponsors don’t just donate money but are paired with individual families and have the option to personally select the gifts and groceries for the families they adopt. The first 100 families to apply are guaranteed a spot in the program, and after that they go on a wait list. The more donors who step up to play Santa, the more families get helped.

The effects on the families is significant. The father who lost his job left their Christmas decorations up until February because seeing other families step forward to take care of them in their time of need made Christmas so wonderful that they didn’t want it to end. The drug-addicted mom didn’t say thank you to the family who helped her, but when she closed the door behind them, she sat on the stairs and cried, as she suddenly realized that these complete strangers were taking better care of her daughter than she had been able to do. Five years later, sober and employed, that woman joined Fraserside as a volunteer for the program. According to Fraserside program director Diane Cairns, many people who have been ‘adopted’ later return as sponsors or volunteers.

As I mentioned, the Adopt-A-Family program pairs donors with families based either on how much the donor wants to spend or the ages of the children they want to sponsor (many donors participate as a family and have their own children select the gifts for the kids they ‘adopt’). Fraserside asks donors to spend $150-200 on groceries for each family, plus $50-75 in toys and clothing for each child. Donors can be as hands-on as they wish: they can personally shop for and deliver gifts or give Fraserside money and let their volunteers make the purchases and delivery.

The adoptees are all low-income families living in New Westminster, and almost all are first-time participants in the program, as priority is given to new participants. Last year 134 local families (about 600 people) benefited from the program, and sponsors came from 17 different communities in the Lower Mainland. Donors are asked to deliver their gifts either to the families directly or to Fraserside to distribute on their behalf by December 18. If you’d like to participate, you can find information on the program and the application form online.

People struggle all year round of course, but at Christmastime it seems especially sad. I am not a Christian, but I find my own meaning in Christmas traditions and I am inspired by the Christmas story. Religious people have their own deep significance for the holiday of course, but I see it as a beacon of hope in cold, dark times. It is a reminder that even when your nose is ‘froze and you can’t see your own feet, you can trust that light and warmth will return to the world. If you’re looking for a way to offer a little hope to a family facing dark times, consider adopting a family in need this Christmas.

Briana Tomkinson

Briana Tomkinson is a Montreal-based writer and original founder of Tenth to the Fraser. She really likes to write letters by hand.

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6 comments

    1. Hi, Diane Cairns, who I interviewed for this story, says this, "The answer is that we don't have the room to actually take donations. We match families up with sponsors and the shopping or making of gifts (i.e. hand knit items) is collected at the sponsor's home. We do take cash donations and have volunteers or staff purchase the items a specific family needs. There are definitely other places that would really appreciate her knitted items: Family Place, Family Services and Salvation Army's christmas bureau."

      So I think the answer is that if you did choose to adopt a family, you could include hand-knitted items among your presents for them, but if all you want to donate is the knitted items, then you would have to find another route. Have you thought about approaching The Hospitality Project with an offer to give them away to food bank clients at Christmas?

  1. I have some christmas decorations and lights to give away. All are in good condition. Do you know of any families that might need them? I'd be willing to deliver them if necessary.

  2. hi everyone, i am hoping to recieve help> i am a single mother with two children (one 7yrs and one 3yrs old). i live in Surrey BC. my youngest child has a disability having to do with his lungs. a few years ago i chose to become a stay at home mother because my child needs alot of extra care. this christmas i am sad that i myself cannot afford a good chrismas for my children, i do not mind that i cant recieve anything, christmas is for the little ones and i am asking for help with gifts for them. Or anything that will help us. please email let me know if there is anyone out there that can bless us with a good christmas. thank you so much!!

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